Is it cold in here, or is it just me?
February 02
Is it cold in here, or is it just me?
It’s hard dating your best friend
I will be the first to admit that it is hard. You know people always tell you, find your best friend and marry them. And I am still all for it, since I am doing just that- minus the marrying part yet anyway. But I will tell you it takes a lot of work, just like any other relationship does, this is just a little different.
Before, when we were just friends, I would go to him when I was arguing with my boyfriend, to get another point of view. What do I do now? If I get into a little tiff with him, and I say to myself- he isn’t getting me, I need to talk to my best friend- oh wait, it’s the same person now and I can’t get an outsiders view on things anymore. I mean I have friends I could talk to about things, but it isn’t the same as telling him- my best friend- because he gets me. It’s all so confusing! I’m sure he feels a little of the same way.
I do find myself in a strange place though, if we argue I suddenly begin building this icy wall around me. I don’t know where that comes from- in the relationship with him I’ve never done that before, before when we were just friends. Its not that I’m pulling away from him at all, it’s like a protection from myself. If I step back and shut up, I can’t make things worse. And I know that is totally wrong of me, but that’s what has been happening. Suddenly the last few days I’ve been the ice queen, cold and distant, and I know he’s noticed. I don’t know what to do to get out of the wall though. I think I’m waiting for him to tell me everything is okay. It’s not a situation of anger, and I know he isn’t mad in any way towards me- it’s more like he has been fumbling in his confidence lately- and that makes me feel stuck.
How do you convince someone that you love them unconditionally when they constantly question things? I don’t know what to do in that situation, for some reason it stops me in my tracks and I freeze up! I’m afraid that I will say the wrong thing, because this is the one relationship I definitely do not want to ruin, so it ends up with me being short or quiet so he can’t read between lines that aren’t there. And again, I know that is wrong of me, I just don’t know how to fix it.
(¯`v´¯)
`*.¸.*´
¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨)
(¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•. jenni
Is it cold in here, or is it just me?
It’s hard dating your best friend
I will be the first to admit that it is hard. You know people always tell you, find your best friend and marry them. And I am still all for it, since I am doing just that- minus the marrying part yet anyway. But I will tell you it takes a lot of work, just like any other relationship does, this is just a little different.
Before, when we were just friends, I would go to him when I was arguing with my boyfriend, to get another point of view. What do I do now? If I get into a little tiff with him, and I say to myself- he isn’t getting me, I need to talk to my best friend- oh wait, it’s the same person now and I can’t get an outsiders view on things anymore. I mean I have friends I could talk to about things, but it isn’t the same as telling him- my best friend- because he gets me. It’s all so confusing! I’m sure he feels a little of the same way.
I do find myself in a strange place though, if we argue I suddenly begin building this icy wall around me. I don’t know where that comes from- in the relationship with him I’ve never done that before, before when we were just friends. Its not that I’m pulling away from him at all, it’s like a protection from myself. If I step back and shut up, I can’t make things worse. And I know that is totally wrong of me, but that’s what has been happening. Suddenly the last few days I’ve been the ice queen, cold and distant, and I know he’s noticed. I don’t know what to do to get out of the wall though. I think I’m waiting for him to tell me everything is okay. It’s not a situation of anger, and I know he isn’t mad in any way towards me- it’s more like he has been fumbling in his confidence lately- and that makes me feel stuck.
How do you convince someone that you love them unconditionally when they constantly question things? I don’t know what to do in that situation, for some reason it stops me in my tracks and I freeze up! I’m afraid that I will say the wrong thing, because this is the one relationship I definitely do not want to ruin, so it ends up with me being short or quiet so he can’t read between lines that aren’t there. And again, I know that is wrong of me, I just don’t know how to fix it.
(¯`v´¯)
`*.¸.*´
¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨)
(¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•. jenni
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